A Guelph, Ont. couple is taking a unique method to rising their household.
Stephanie Craig and Mike Murphy are fairly proud of their fur infants – a pair of cats – however they’ve been eager for a human bundle of pleasure.
“We started in 2018. In 2019, I unfortunately had to give birth early to our son at 24 weeks and he passed away about 38 minutes after birth,” stated Craig.
What adopted was a number of rounds of in-vitro fertilization (IVF) and extra heartbreak.
“Nine more miscarriages since then,” Craig stated.
There have been many robust blows, however they’re hanging on to gadgets that have been purchased for his or her future youngster.
“We have our NHL-branded onesies,” stated Craig, chuckling. She additionally pointed to a blanket she made and a stuffed animal.
After their final miscarriage, their physician recommended a surrogate could be the most secure and most profitable path to take given they aren’t totally positive what’s inflicting the miscarriages.
However they rapidly realized that utilizing an company isn’t the most suitable choice for them.
“It’s kind of like going to a restaurant where they say, ‘here’s the menu and here’s what you get.’ You don’t really have a lot of choice. We’re going independent because we want to go à la carte,” stated Craig.
The couple needed extra selection over the legal professionals they’ll be working with, the therapists they’ll be working with and naturally, the one who shall be carrying their child.
That’s the reason they kicked off a social media surrogate search.
It was a frightening job for a reasonably non-public couple. That’s particularly the case for Murphy, who by no means had social media earlier than taking this threat to seek out the right match.
“I was terrified. I’m like, ‘God, I have to do this. I have to put myself out there,” stated Murphy.
Only a few months in, the search is displaying optimistic indicators. Critical candidates have reached out, however they haven’t fairly discovered the fitting individual but. Though, they’re inspired by the early curiosity given the method can take years.
“My desire to have a child or desire to have a family is stronger than the hopelessness, or giving up. You have to find your way to the strength,” stated Craig.
That energy, they really feel, is a part of the inspiration that may result in a contented and wholesome household.
